Charlie Brown : Part 2

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Heya George,

I have put plenty of thought into what you said.
And I believe I could happy with any end result.

Just this past week I have a close friend who has declared to me that he has decided to file for a divorce. I was intially confused and opinionated about his decision. Then when him and finally sat down to discuss why he was leaving his wife it suddenly dawned on me that I may have been way more concerned about my wants and needs rather than " Lucy's ". Yes, things obviously havent worked into my favor but this is something that had to be done for her to be true to herself and follow her heart. After having this heart to heart with my good friend it be obvious to me that Lucy did what she had to do regardless of how I might feel or be effected by her decision. Now in retrospect, I dont know if I would have it any other way.
I have had so much personal growth and solved many past issues that may have prevented me from having a balanced relationship with anyone.
As per contact with her? -
Well one week ago I took our cat to the vet for a checkup.
I think she saw me bring him into the house because the next day I got an emailing saying
" Just Saying Hi , How is the cat? "
I responded of course and kept it simple.
We volleyed emails for about 5 days in a row now.
She had asked how work and church were going. And then for the kicker! How is your family?! Woah, havent been asked that question in a looong time! At any rate, I was funny and really cool with emails. I didnt ask any questions about a relationship or anything intrusive. I just kept it friendly. The last email she sent me more or less just answered any questions I had asked in my email to her.
It doesnt really warrant a response either. She didnt leave any questions so I have decided to let it be.
That was the most dialogue that we have had since May.
I know that she wants to be friends at the least. I am okay with that. There is a mutual respect between us and we both think of eachother as being wonderful. I can accept her for whatever she decides is best for her.
Come to think of it, maybe all this time she hasnt been playing Lucy because she never said stuff that would be misleading. Instead, I was trying to read between the lines looking for clues to how she may be feeling.
I am in a great position right now because whatever happens next should be defining as to what will happen in the end.
The other strange thing that happened was that during these emails she talked about a certain incident that took place over the weekend and expressed some emotions that she was feeling. I thought that was fantastic!
NoneTheLess, this email is more about me making a breakthrough with my thoughts and feelings.
As usual, Thx George. I will update you again if there is anything worth while to post. Take Care.

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Glad to hear that things are going smoothly.

She sounds like a very nice person and someone worthy of your friendship.

Hope your cat is doing well.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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