I Love My Ex With All My Heart and its Breakin Me

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I was 17 when i met the love of my life and she was 16, we were each others first love. we dated for 3years altogether but she fell pregnant 2 & 1/2 years into the relationship. I was childish and silly and advised her to have an abortion as i was working part time and couldn't afford a baby just yet. She really didnt want an abortion but she had it anyway. After the abortion she kept crying for two weeks, then things went back to normal then she'd throw it back in my face then just after we were togeva for 3years she finished with me and got with this guy she'd been chattin to.This absolutely broke me inside..i'd stay in bed crying all day, tellin myself i need her in my life, shes my sole mate in my eyes and i love her too much. She was with this guy for 3months and fell pregnant...This killed me...they stayed togeva for two years and in this time id cry like once every two weeks becoz i couldn't get over her. She did contact me like once every 3months in their two yars togeva. Now shes found out hes been cheating on her for two years and phoned me to meet up...i absolutely love her and my feelings have neva changed...we got bk togeva for and i accepted her baby and looked after him and treated him like my own..the sex with me and my ex is like no other. after 2months togeva she told me she has still got strong feelings for her ex and loves him more than me...This broke me again and i cant stop crying now and praying to god that she'll come back to me. She sed she needs time to know if shes gna get bk wiv him or me, she sed im the safer option to be wiv becoz she cant trust her ex but loves all about taking risks she said. SHES MY 1ST LOVE THOUGH AND I DONT NO WHAT TO DO..I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART AND I COULDNT BARE HER TO GET BK WIV HER EX...WHAT SHALL I DO??? CAN SHE BE IN LOVE OR LOVE TWO PEOPLE? WHO GETS MORE RECOGNITION..HER EX BECOZ HES THE BABY DAD OR ME BECOZ IM HER 1ST LOVE.

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RomanceClass.com Advice
Yes, it is possible for her to love both of you at the same time. You should continue to be her friend and hope that she discovers her ex to be less worthy than you are. She has come to that conclusion in the past and could do it again.

You asked who gets more recognition. There is no way to figure this out. It's up to each person to figure it out themselves.

You have my best wishes! George

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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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