Getting Back Together Again
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old FemaleI broke up with my boyfriend last august then after a 2 months he txt me in my cell and he said that he missed me a lot. I ask him that if he likes to have a girlfriend and he said he not yet ready to commit another relationship.
What should I do? I pretend that I'm not in love with him yet I don't want to make the first move! Do you think he still loves me???
RomanceClass.com AdviceIf you guys broke up and never talked about the situation then very probably your ex is very worried about having the exact same problems happening again and the exact same results. Which is very good of him, because that IS what normally would happen if you guys just started dating again.
Remember, you broke up for a reason! It's easy to be starry eyed and remember the good times, but there WERE bad times that caused problems. Either you really TALK about those and work through them and find solutions, or they are going to come back again - even worse - when you just get back together again.
So have a serious talk with him. I have advice on that here -
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/hardtalk.asp
and put it all on the table. Talk about EVERYTHING that bothered you before - even the tiny stuff - and have him do the same. Prove to him that you CAN discuss these issues and that together you can find solutions. When he sees you are serious, I bet he will be willing to work out things with you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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