We broke up, I want him back

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
iv just split up with my boyfriend of 4 months. everything was going so well but he was a bit shy. all of a sudden i spoke to him about his shyness and everything changed for the better.

i knew he went to university but i didnt think about what it would be like. now we have split up and i just want him back. what do i do?

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You say everything was going well, but people don't break up when things are going well. They break up because things are so bad that it's not worth working on it any more. So the only way you can get things back together again is to be totally honest about what happened. You have to give a lot of thought to what was wrong, what things were going badly that you guys never talked about or worked on. It was that lack of communication and effort in the end that killed the relationship. If you just get together again right now you will break right back up again.

I have advice on getting an ex back here -

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/3

but it comes down to honesty. First really go over the relationship on your own and think about the good parts AND the bad parts and think of ways you can BOTH work to resolve the things that weren't good. Then sit down with HIM and really talk about your issues and ask HIM about what he felt were wrong. Unless you can discuss these things and find solutions, it won't work.

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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