We are BOTH very jealous

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi 25 year old and am seeing a guy at work who is also 25.
when we met he took ages trying to get to know me and I played it hard to get. when we first got into the relationship he was the perfect man. He tried really hard to impress me and make me like him. We spent soo much time together, at work and after work. I enjoyed being with him, because i was the centre of his life. He even quit smoking and talked of marriage, even mentioned me to his mum.

He has been cheated on in previous relationships and I get the impression that he thinks I will cheat on him.

He is pretty possesive and gets rather jealous when other guys try to chat to me. He would pick me up after work so that no-one else will drop me off. He hardley booked days off as he was worried someone else will try to get to know me. If I speak to anyone he will include himself in the conversation.

I enjoyed the attention. Then i started to accuse him of looking at other girls, as i said this makes me look stupid, because i am really attracive and i can't see why he needs to look at other girls. He has even started to get attention from girls recently maybe because is so devoted to me, but i think he give girls the wrong impression, maybe that he is interested. I have always been rather jealous but tried to hide it at first. I have never been cheated on why am I so insecure, as i am really pretty and so many guys want to be with me.

We have been together for 5 months now and for the last two months things have gotten pretty bad, as I get more and more jealous even if he speaks to a collegue. He pays less attention to me then before and I always start arguments trying to understand what has gone wrong.

Before he tried to include me in everything now he tries to find space,he even started to smoke again.

please help

I worry that his love for me will fade away or is this normal as relationships usually cool down after a while. He even spends less time with me than before and I keep looking for reasons, please help how can i give him the space he needs and not be jealous at work, because it is getting difficult to work with him.

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If you guys are BOTH jealous, then you both need to get this under control VERY quickly. I have a ton of tips on jealousy here -

Handling Jealousy

You need to make this a top priority in your relationship. Jealousy is well known to destroy even the best of relationships.

-- from Lisa
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