Drinking did him in

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hello, i am 18 and my girlfriend is 16. we used to fight alot but recently we were doing ok. well on saturday we went to her formal for school. (i am out of school). we had a little dissagreement there nothing big because we got over it. well after that we went to her house cuz her mom wanted to see her plus so she can change. well after she changed she told her mom that she is going to a party But not drinking then coming home to get her clothes to stay over a friends house so then her mom can also see she didnt drink. well we went to the party both of us ended up drinking for about an hour then she stoppoed and said lets go. so i finished drinking and we left to go get her stuff. well we got there and i waited in the truck bc her mom would know i was drunk. well we got the stuff and then we took the truck back to my dads and as soon as we got there we started to argue over where to put his keys. well i started walking away whiule she put the keys upstairs. well somehow she ended up in front of me walking really fast. i asked her to stop and she kept going, so then i told her to take off the ring and earing i just bought her and she trew them on the ground. so then she kept going and i started to call her a pig and what not. (i was drunk) then she asked if we can just stop fighting have continue having a good night. i said no. so we kept going untill we got just about to her friends and the whole way there i kept yelling at her and calling her names. well we in front of the house and i told her i wanted all my stuff back bc i am done w/ her. well we walked to her house and she asked me if it was what i wanted and i said yes. so her mom answered the door (2am.) then she told her mom to tell me to leave. well stupid me didnt and said i wanted my stuff. well her mom grabbed me by the arm and threw me out the top door, then she stil told me to get out. i said no. so she started like to push me also snapping out on me telling me to leave and she ended up pushing me down the steps. well i got up and screamed at her and stilldidnt leave. well my g/f finally got my stuff brought it down and gave it to her mom and her mom threw it at me. my g/f was standing there in tears. well i got the stuff walked out and smashed it all over there pourch. walked about 5 steps and started balling my eyes out realizing what i just did. so i picked all the stuff up went down the road, picked the earings and ring up. went back to there house and knocked on the door and noone answered. i went home and called and her mom picked right up and said if i ever call again she will get me arrested. then i told her i was sorry and at the time i was still crying and i also told her that i needed them and i was drunk and didnt realize what happened. well she said calmed down a little bit and said we will talk tomorrow. well tomorow came and i called and her mom said she is grounded for a month, cant go out or do anyhting. if she see's me and talks she is grounded for another month. well once again i said i was sorry and she said sorry isnt good enough. she dont want me going out w/ her daughter unless i change. well sunday night my g/f had work at sears so i decided to go talk to her there. i went and she siad she didnt want to talk to me. then a manager came over and said that she cannot talk to me and her manager has to follow me untill i leave the store. well monday came and i went up the mall again and i wasnt even looking for my gf and i went in sears to shop and her manager came out and followed me till i left making sure i went no where near my gf. mg g/f's mom also told me for the first time my g/f-ex? is afraid of me. well i dont know what to do, her mom said if i change i can see her and i know if i change she will go back out w/ me i hope. well i am deff not drinking anymore but how do i proove this. i was thinking of calling on friday and sat night to say hello showing that i didnt drink. i mean her mom wil talk to me but My g/f cant. i got her mom to ask if she stil even wants to be w/ me and she siad she asked her and my g/f said she dont want to talk about it. what do i do? she didnt even go to school monday bc she is sick over all of it. i cant sleep and all that is on my mind is her. i just want it to be good again. please give me some hints.

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The big lesson you learned is that you can't drink anymore. Your behavior (as you know) was terrible and I don't blame the mother or your g/f for wanting to avoid you until you have proven you won't drink again. Your idea of calling and proving that you haven't been drinking is a good one. But you are going to have to wait a long time before they trust you. Be patient, I suspect it won't be too long before they start trusting you again.

Good luck,
George

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