Give him time to get his feet back on the ground

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dear George,
hello again~

My ex-bf n i have been hanging out these few days.
It seems like he'd not patch back wt his gf anymore.
And it seems like we are already planning to get back together.
I tried having a talk wt him, talk about us.
He did say that he needed some time.
I was ok with it. He said he'd need about one month's time.

I'd like to ask...am i on the right track?
Is 1 month too long? or should i hurry up and grab the opportunity?

And what should i or he do to show that we are confirmed together (after we patch back)?
I'm afraid that we might patch back but the next day he'd tell me it's not confirmed....

I saw that my phone number wasn't even on his mobile's address book...what should i do because i really want my name in his mobile's address book...
i asked him why my number wasn't inside, he told me it was because he already cld memorize my number.
I don't know how to explain it...
i juz want to be recognised...acknowledged...





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Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dear George,
sorry to bother you again.
My ex-bf told me he broke up wt his gf last nite. It was due to a big quarrel and he couldn't stand it anymore.
I used to ask him "What has she done for u?"
He said that "What you asked has a point. She hasn't done anything for me. You are right"
i went out wt him, tried to cheer him up. He seemed confused n frustrated at times, sad at times, happy at times.
Then he asked me to be his GF. I told him to settle everything wt her first.
He was supposed to watch movie with me today, but when i asked him about it today, he told me he juz wanted to stay home because he was feelin vexed.
I messaged him.
I asked him "were u serious when u asked me to be ur gf?"
He said "Don't know"
I said "u mean u are not sincere..."
He said "I will let u know later..."
I said "When you told me you love me, did u mean it? Or were u just using me. I don't mean to pressure you, but please spare a thought for me"
He replied "It's real...but i am confused now"
I asked "You wanted me to wait, how long do u need?"
He did not reply me anymore...
I felt so hurt...
But...I'm still not willing to give up...
So i messaged him "I know you are confused, that's fine. Remember i will be here :) But if in the end u decide u will not be with me, please let me know in advance"
He did not respond anymore...

George...What shd i do?
I feel so lost now...I really don't know what is the best thing to do to get him back to me...his heart to me...
This is the 2nd time they broke up and i don't understand why he still can't make up his mind...

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RomanceClass.com Advice
Sounds like things are going well for you two now. Be patient still and when he is ready he will become your boyfriend again. To celebrate and confirm, offer to take him out to dinner. Don't push him on anything, he seems to be very confused and needs time to get his feet back on the ground.

Good luck,
George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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