Have pity on him
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
So,there's this guy which is 15 and I'm 17.
It started 2 weeks ago,when I went to the cafe in the morning to be with my friends and they told me that this guy wanted to meet me and said I was cute.
One of my friends said she talked with him and he said that he was 2 years younger than me,that he had no chance with me.She also said that if he didn't try he would never know if he had any chance with me and that I liked younger guys and he became all excited.
That same day when we went to the bar we usually go at lunch time,he seated at our table,next to me.Later this night I received a new number on my cell and it was him.He asked for my mail and I gave him and we talked on msn.So,next day one of the girls from his class which happens to be mine and his friend went up to me and I said that he was so into me.And so it seemed because till this Tuesday he started to go everyday to the bar we go at lunch time,sit at our table,then he would be with me at most of the class breaks and at noon,right after he got home from school,he would talk to me on msn till we go to bed.Even on weekends we would talk from about lunch time till late at night.
We started to have walks alone,after being a bit on the bar with my friends,we would leave and walk around town and then go back to the bar.And it started a week ago,on Monday.We were at that bar,he sitted next to me,and of course my friends meesing with both of us.One of them even started to write on her cell about me and gave him her cell so he could reply,without talking directly.She asked if he liked me and he said yes,then she told him to send me a text msg to cell phone with something like "I want your love",so that he could see my reaction on that minute...He said that it was too strong,that he would probably "get really dumped".So,my friend grabs his cell phone and asks him if she can send the msg,he agreed.When I received I was like surprised and happy,but didn't say anything.He got all red.So my friend arranged some sort of scheme that made him go out and of course I went after him. We had a walk and he told me that he wasn't expecting this to happen so early,that he was expecting that it would go a bit slower.So I replied that we could go slower if he wanted.
And so we had our walk everyday at lunch time,and then returned to the bar.
At school after classes break we,sometimes,would have a walk around school alone.
That week,Thursday,when I was with him and a few of my friends and I said I was hungry he offered to go with me to the school cafeteria to eat something.As I said I had no money left he offered again to go with me,and once we got there he said that I could eat whatever I wanted,making his money at my disposal.Of course, I thought it was really sweet from him.That same day,at morning, I apologised to him for the day before because I screwed up a little on msn,and told him that I was starting to like him and wouldn't want him to be fed up with me.Later after school on msn he asked if what I told him was true,which I replied that it was.
Next day, it all happened the same.After he went away to have classes he sent me a text mesg saying that he was in love with me and really liked me.We Talked again on msn at night,and I told him that I really liked to go with him to see a movie and he said the same.So on weeked when we were talking on msn he said that he talked with his brother and that he would bring him to my town so we could go to the cinema.This Monday the same thing happened,he went to the bar and stayed with me,but after a long while he said that he had to go early to school and so he left.We even't had our walk around town like we normally do.
Later after school when I was waiting with a friend,for the bus,a friend of mine said that he wanted to talk to me.So when I saw him also waiting for the bus,I went up to him and asked what he wanted to talk,in which he replied "We talk tomorrow".And I stayed with him till his bus came.
I started to sense something was wrong,because he usually came to msn when he got home and that day he came later to msn.We talked and he asked if I liked him,and I said yes,and then he asked "What about if we started making out".I asked if he liked me and he said "Yes,I do",and I was hoping with that question that he would ask me to date him.He asked me how many hours did I have for lunch and I took off as he wanted to make out the next day.I also asked him if my age bothered him and he said a bit, that he never dated anyone 2 years older than him,in which I replied "there's always a first time for everything".
So,the next day I talked to my friend and she seemed really surprised that he asked me to make out,because the day before they were "discussing" in class about me and him and he said he would talk to me about us dating.
So that day we make out,and after that we even took a walk by the school gym,hugged.So after that my friends asked if something happened between us and he said we made out.One of them asked if he liked, he said yes he liked very much, and she asked if he wanted to do it again in which he also said yes.
But after we made out we didn't talk anymore on msn,he didn't go to the cafe anymore to be with me.But the funny thing is he continues to say hi at school,and I also do that,pretending everything's alright.He even went up to me later after school to give me 2 kisses in the cheek ,and then he back off a little but he ended to greet my friends too.And I forgot to mention that he blocked me on msn,before yesterday.
What I wanted is some opinions on this,could it be that he was just playing with me?And if so how can I teach him a lesson?
I don't think he was playing with you. Everything you described sounds like a young man in love. My guess is that the making out gave him cold feet about what to do next. You should ask him why he blocked you. That is really strange. If he has a reasonably good excuse then tell him you want to talk, in person, about why he became shy after making out. At his age, he might not even understand why himself. Boys are generally immature at that age and don't understand a lot. Explain to him that you thought things were going well and you would like to continue seeing him.
All this is assuming that you are willing to pick up with him again. If you are not, then let things drop but don't try to teach him a lesson... just have pity on him.
-- from George
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