Well my problem is that me and my ex had broken up since february of 2004 and we remain as "friends"

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Well my problem is that me and my ex had broken up since february of 2004 and ever since then we remain as "friends" but we still show affection and recently everything has gone wrong on June the 2cnd i thought i was pregant so i told him and he told me that it wasent his baby and he wasent going to claim him and that once it was born and he took a blood test and it was his he was going to take it away from me this has happenned last year too but he never acted like this so i decide to get a abortin becauze im not ready for kids and so is he i know he is a good person though once we are together he may not act like the nicest guy ever but he tells me what he knows i hate t hear wich is to get a education be independant dont let no one boss me around stuff like that i am only a weak person when it comes to him but when is other guys i treat them real messed up i treat them like the person i really am i have too much pride but not when it comes to my ex and now recently ever since that day i told him i was we have not seen each other but he knows i aborted he is ok with it so am i and now he said that it was it there is not no way we could be together becauze i bring too much stress and i just found out he got a account on some 1 website and he has been talkin to girls and there is one girl though that he went to pick up "just to show her around La" i know he wouldnt do nothing with her but i read whats he wrote to him and she is coming on to him tellin him that next time there alone blah blah blah and wink wink ... i dont know i truly love my ex and he loves me too he doesnt tell me that alot but he says that he doesnt have to it as long as i know he loves me to death thats all that matters so what im planning to do is give him a month withought communication and see what happens no matter what i want him back though we been talkin on the phone a little though i tell him that im going to get him back and he say no but then there is ometimes that i remind him of the good times and how much he loves me that he doesnt answer with a no he just say Bye good nyte i know i could get him back im just afraid that girls might try to get with him he told me i will never catch him doing noth9ing with none of them becauze its going to take him years to start another relationship with some one we always fight every month like 10 times or even more but we always get back together this time i dont know it probably is going to take ;longer then that he says he does miss me is just that i need to change and i said how about if i change in 3 months and we see each other on my birthday wich is on October the 5th he said im not promising nothing but i know he would probably no if girls already made him forget about me what should i do?

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I like your plan and think it will work.

You know him better than anyone else and so you will make things turn out your way. And, he seems fairly close to you.

My worry is about the amount of arguing you do. You both have to get out of that habit or it will stay with you the rest of your life... no matter who you end up with. Take turns giving in to the other in arguments. You will find it is fun and enjoy it.

Good luck!
George

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