I kinda have feelins for him. But i don't want to! I really love this guy i'm going out with

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
The thing is, i'm going out with a guy i really adore, but i don't know if i'm over my ex.
Last year November i was going out with a new guy that came to our school (We were in 7th gr). We really had fun times together and i knew then that it was only puppy love. I broke up with him in January because i thought a new start would be nice, going to high school and meeting new friends and so ... i broke up with my boyfriend (stupid me!). Just in early Febuary we became friends again and ever since i've tried to become closer friends with him.
Since the 9th of may i've been going out with a guy thats 3 yrs older that me (11th gr).This guy makes me feel so special, secure and so much more loved, it's hard to believe that it can only be puppy love(like my ex but even moe stronger he's the 2nd guy that i had a kiss with. (better than my first)I'm more open with him then i ever was with any of my other boyfriends at times it feels like he's my only friend that i can really trust, more than my g/fs that I hang out with.He means the WORLD to me i'm even more happier than i was now that he's in my life.

My ex is in my class and we talk about a lot of stuff too. He has a EXTREMELY good sense of humor, he's always makeing our class laugh. That's one thing that makes me miss him even more. No matter how hard i try not to like or think about him, he's still in my thoughts.
I wrote to you before that (he's) a smoker and i don't like smokers, well a few weeks ago he told me that he stoped and when i broke up with him he started again. That really got to me, because i didn't belive him before, BUT NOW... I DO!? Just the last day of our 2nd term during break, i saw him smoking with these other students and right then it broke my heart (I DO NOT EVEN KNOW WHY) I know he still likes me and he knows that I kinda have feelins for him. But i don't want to! I really love this guy i'm going out with.PEEEEEAAAASSSSSE Help me?!!?
(This has never ever happened to me before that i can't loose my feelings for an ex well not in this way. Usually when i'm going out with some one i'm totally over my ex, even while i'm not going out with any one.)
What feeling is this? (obsestion, puppy love, a crush, real love?) I don't understand
*B.A* (14 years)

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RomanceClass.com Advice
It is not unusual to be attracted to two persons at the same time.

What you have to do make up your mind which one is more important to you.

Or, you could just let things go on the way they are and see what develops. That is probably the best idea.

But, while you are doing that, think real hard about what your true feelings are.

Good luck!
George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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