we went out for only four days, we broke up 1 1/2 years ago, and she's still all i can think of

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hey! i really need some help! theres this girl that i cant seem to get over. i mean, we went out for only four days, its been a year and a half since our break up and she's still all i can think of. she's not my first shes practically my 20th girlfriend and yet when she broke up with me the pain and hurt felt so foreign. i dont know where i went wrong i made her feel special in every little way i could, i even ran upstairs right away and cleaned up my desk when her friends told me she thought my area was dirty, i sent her flowers in school and knelt down, slipped a ring on her finger and asked her to be my baby forever, i wrote her songs, sneak a letter in her locker, wrote her poems and just anything i can think of. but in those four days we didn't get to spend much time together i had a lot of basketball games and practices.we broke up cause she wasn't sure she loved me and we dont spend much time together. but believe me i tried, i missed practices just to be with her i even forgot my friends exsisted. the next day she told me she regreted what she did she so i asked her out again, she made me wait for days then told me she only sees me as a friend and nothing more. it totally crushed me. to think that my ex before her went out with me for six months i barely cried then she came around, dropped me in four days and i still haven't got over her til now. about a month after she broke up with me i moved to another country, before i left she gave me a letter sayin:

j* im sorry sometimes if im such a pain in the ass guess im just like this!for the times ive hurt you! im so damn sorry! anyweiz, i just wanna thank you for everything! for bein such a gentleman! for the times you bot' me food![hehe]for the cd! for your guitar and songs you play![boy!im'na miss that!]for bein sooo..sweet! for everything! for the jokes you made! for smellin' so good! for bein' so cute![wat? hehe]:'( for makin' all of us feel so special! y the hell did i let you go?
*i still cant anwer that
argh!y the hell! wen you were so good to be true!
hey'! i know you'll meet other girls there and i know they'll fall for sure! who wouldn't? your face!your voice!your guitar! your charm! your jokes! your sweet and gentle ways..

j* im sorry i know ive messed up ive hurt you sooo...badly but im so sorry j* i never did mean it! *i just wanna tell you things i couldnt tell infront of you!
i mean, ive hurt you and you never did do that to me!

you treated me right and i was just being foolish, dumb, and stupid! but i really did regret everything..
its just that when were together you make me fall all over again!but maybe my mind is just playing tricks on me!
infatuation?maybe? or maybe i just miss you!j* ..im really gonna miss you and im so thankful for having you for the short period of time ive spent with you, knowing you, and im so thankful for you! * i know im sorry but im never sorry for having you!thats all :D ive got so much to tell you but so hard to explain. call me!write!fax! watever! just keep in touch. take care of yourself for me!be good and stay the same.
*love you for sure

she just got me so confused that night i read that letter.
and now im here, shes there we still talk i call her every now and then but we stopped tokin when she heared i was seing someone i didn't understand why she got mad so i asked and guess what? no answer. word from my friends is that someone has his eye on her right now but their not sure if its just a crush, mutual understanding or its official.
. i don't know! will i ever move on? how can i possibly leave all this behind when the first thing that pops out of my mind early in the morning til i sleep late at night are all flashbacks of me and her?

i cant sleep at my usual sleeping time i just sit there and think, write all my thoughts in a notebook dets full of rhymes about her try a 150 pages. im coming home next month do you think it would be a good idea to tell her all this?
i want her back! i really do!


in need of serious help,
hopeless romantic

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RomanceClass.com Advice
When you come back home, definitely tell her how you feel.

Or, even before that. She obviously had or has strong emotions for you and you have nothing to lose by trying for her hand again.

But after one and one half years when you only went out four days, you must admit the odds are rather slim of it working out. If she refuses to go out with you and you still pine for her, I would recommend a professional therapist to help you out.

I certainly hope everything works out for you!
George



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