we might have at least one more hot encounter posibly leading to reconciliation

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Me and my ex girlfreind L* dated for only 4 months, but it was a wild four months...Extremeley intense and passionate when it was good, and horribly heartbreaking when she ended it. We have been apart for a couple months now. I'm doing my part and staying away (even though I still want her) and have convinced all our freinds,and almost myself, that I am done with her. All of the sudden, I start getting these calls from her sister. I was good freinds with her sister when we dated and she is sorta like my sister in a way.. Anyway, her sister will call me with L* (the ex) in the background...me and L* will giggle and flirt with each other for long instances, always with L*'s sister holding the phone and being the middle man in between us (telling her sister what to say to me, and vice versa). Just wondering what exactly L* is trying to do. I'm not dumb, I understand she really isnt calling me at 11pm to ask when she can get get her cd's back like she would want me to believe. She did make it clear it was over between us (broke my heart) when we broke up ,and she is activley trying to let me know she is seeing somone else (who she talks about all the time when I'm around, almost so abviously just to rile me up) but yet she will find the smallest excuse to call me up and flirt with me with the help of her sister...We talk about our hotter moments and how great it was, Our conversations actually seem to be getting back to the comfort level we used to have when together. I'll mention a moment when we were intimate, and she will admit how she wants those times back as well somtimes, but cant bring herself to do it. The thing about it is that Im trying to play it cool (act like I dont care about her anymore) but she almost has this strange power over me. I want to be around her, not to be intimate or hang out, but just be in her prescence, know that shes by me. She knows this, even if I dont say it. She tells me how the new guy she is thinking of seeing is liked better by her mom, is cute, has abs, etc etc etc, but at the same time, will get quite intimate and serious at times we bring up some of our old memories (almost like she wants a part of them back). Is she just doing this to get me all worked up? Or should I assume some of it is genuine. HEr sister caled me tonight and we talked about how much of a great time we had together while she was getting her makup on to go see this new guy she keeps telling me about (freind of mine too). Should I assume this is treachery, know that I am the better man, and refuse to be lead on and get closer to her, or should I play along in hopes that through these talks, we will work things out to the point where we might have at least one more hot encounter posibly leading to reconciliation?

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As long as you are enjoying it, keep on talking with her.

It's doing no one any harm and she may split with her boyfriend.

Good luck!
George

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