Flirting Cautiously

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi,i'm 13 years old and there's this girl i really like. She is in all of my classes and i sit next to her in German, she hangs around with some of my other friends and i have just started hanging around with them. i talk to her a bit sometimes. how can i get to know her and get her to like me without making it really obvious i'm into her? Because i think that would just put her off. Advice
You've got a good mindset for this. You don't want to come after a girl with guns blazing, because few girls want to be attacked like that. They want to feel liked, sure, but they want time to feel like they can be sure THEY like YOU too before things get too wild.

Definitely keep up your friendly talks. Everyone enjoys having friends around! While you talk and chat and such, learn what she likes. Share with her the things you like. Just let things slip in casual conversation, and ask her questions like "And what's your favorite song?" The more of those things you know about each other, the closer it draws you, because you reveal bits of yourself to each other. It's a gradual process, but soon enough you two become best friends which is the most important step to boyfriend-girlfriend there is.

Just take it slow and you'll be fine :)

-- from Jenn
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