he told me that he made a big mistake when he broke up with me to go out with that other girl

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I'm 16 years old and i like this guy that goes to my school. Last year was his first year at my school and i found out that he liked me. Once he found out that i liked him he asked me for my phone number and called me one night. He wanted to rush into a relationship with me before he even got to know me that well. I figured that since he was really hott i would give him a chance and just get to know him while we were together. He wouldnt talk to me at school and it seemed like he was mad at me sometimes. One day i saw him talking to another girl in the hall and as days went on i saw him talking to her more and more. The next thing i knew we broke up after a month. He didn't even try to get to know me. It puzzled me why a senior girl wanted to talk to a sophmore boy. He's really cute and she isn't pretty at all. I couldnt figure out why he liked her. A few days after we broke up i found out that the girl who he had been talking to was offering to have sex with him. I told him while we were together that i was a virgin and that i didn't want to have sex until marriage. Do you think that's why he broke up with me? They stayed together almost the whole school year and then broke up right before school got out for the summer. While they were together i could kind of tell that he still liked me because he would flirt with me and i would catch him looking at me in class. Over the summer i saw him a few times and he flirted with me. During the summer i had a boyfriend but we decided to break up when school started. The first day of school this year the guy i liked was asking me about my boyfriend. He didnt know that we broke up. He seemed so interested in me. One day i text messaged him to ask him what time the game started and he asked me about my boyfriend again so finally i told him that we broke up. Then he asked me if i was looking for anyone at the time. I told him that i was trying to get to know him. i was shocked when i read this but he told me that he made a big mistake when he broke up with me to go out with that other girl. For the next few days we talked on the phone and a little bit at school and we planned a date for the next weekend. Well we talked on the phone that weekend and he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Everything was fine Monday at school but he started to ignore me Tuesday. He did the same thing Wednesday so i tried to call him and ask him what was going on and he didnt answer his phone. Then i text messaged him on his cell phone and asked him. He texted me back and told me that he didnt want a girl right now. I was so angry because i told him that i liked him and he just changed his mind. Why do you think he just chaged his mind. Was he just trying to find out if i liked him or what? He's one of the guys that every girl at school likes so he has a BIG ego because he's goodlooking and a star athlete. I'm just trying to find out if he's shy of if he was just playing me for the fool. He talks to and flirts with all the other girls in class but me. He just flirts with me, he doesnt say anything. He acts like i'm not even there sometimes. He used to go to school with a bunch of slutty girls and i'm not like that so maybe he's shy because he doesnt know what to say to me. From what i hear, he's never had to approach a girl. They always approach him. I'm one of those old fashioned girls. I let the guys come to me. People are always saying that we were a cute couple. I'm not trying to brag but i think i'm a pretty girl and i cant figure out why he broke up with me for an unattractive girl. We're both physically attracted to each other but i dont know if he REALLY likes me. I'm so confused. Everything is so ackward between us at school. Please help me. I would just like to know if there's any chance between us. Does he like me? Why did he break up with me the first time for that other girl and why did he decide that he didnt want a girl at the time?

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Sounds like you are dealing with a popular guy with a huge ego.

You are going to have to chase him if you want him. I have no idea why he is treating you like he is.

The only way to find out why he behaves the way he does is to ask him, but he may not know himself.

Good luck!
George

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