I want him to be miserable!!!

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I hate my ex!! Weve broken up a long time ago, and im telling you it was bad.. We loved each other dearly for two yrs. He was always "d nice man". So sweet and just perfect. We were bestfriends, we would wrestle and feelings were developed. We were there for each other, his mom never really liked me because he was the only boy in the family, she was scared that we would get pregnant and i would take her only boy away from her. But anyways, we were young, so we were both pretty stubborn and can be very egotistic. So when we fight about very little things, it can go on for a week. So after almost two years, i broke it off. (just bcoz of a stupid fight) He wanted me back like always, asked to get back together but i was playin hard to get. Then he just stopped and i guess moved on w/ his life. He did not date anybody from our school, i guess out of respect for me. But he did have a long distance relationship on a different country. (a friend of his' that i was always jealous w/) .. Well things got really bad, we lost respect for each other and more importantly we lost our friendship. He would email me nasty stuffs like saying "if i was a strawberry, i wouldnt get pick because i was rotten" somthin like dat. These emails made it pretty obvious that he really hated me. I tried for 2 yrs for us to be friends, but he just couldnt let things go. After 2 yrs, we would find each other on YM, and chat.. I think finally all has been forgotten... He emailed me and asked for forgiveness coz he held a grudge for way too long. So there we were friends again right.. Were both happily married but everytime i look back.. (i just cant help it) but everytime i do, I hate him so much, he put me through so much pain, he really gave me hell when weve broken up and i just cant bare the fact that he is happy.. I want him to be miserable!!! Or atleast thats what i think he deserves. I forgave but i just couldnt forget!!! Am i wrong, does that mean, im not over him and im not really happy w/ where im at, coz i am..

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Just go ahead and hate him!

If you think that's what he deserves and you want him to be miserable. You will probably find after spending some time hating him that you will start to understand him and find forgiveness in your heart. This will make you feel much better and much better about yourself.

So allow yourself to get this anger out of you and hopefully that will make you a happier person!

Good luck!
George

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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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