His away messages were usually about me

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My ex and i ended the night he asked me back out, and in the same sentence told me he had to take another girl to homecoming. i was very hurt, and said no (2 yrs prior, i turned down a guy who asked me because we liked each other then, and i didnt want to hurt him) After that night he started treating me so horribly. he ignored me, talked about me behind my back, emotionally/verbally abused me in every way possible. He started hanging out w/the girl he took to h/c, and acted like they were a couple. (after he ended it, he told me he wanted me to realize something) He still loved me, and i loved him, but couldnt let him know) I still didnt give in, and 1 week later, he literally hooked up w/a 14yr old (he was 17) and had sex w/her the 2nd night knowing she had a bf! They barely even knew each other. I didnt find this out until 2 mos. later. i heard rumors, but he would lie and tell me they didnt do anything. My whole world was crushed! 5 mos. after he was w/her, he told me he loved me and didnt want me to hurt him (being w/other guys), he still missed what we had, he thought about me all the time, dreams of me, mostly he misses crying on me!! He was gonna break up with her, but i just let it go! I cant help but notice how he treats her so different. He always had to be holding me soo tight. He puts an arm around her neck, or just holds her hand! He very seldom tells her that he loves her, only if she says it first (he would tell me 50 times a day, then we would argue about who loved who more)
The other night he asked me if i ever think about sex w/him! It kills me, that he just went off and did this w/this kind of girl. He knew how she was, but i know he did it out of hurt! Him and i never really had sex. We had very deep feelings for each other,(he wasnt about that w/me, he loved just kissing me) and he used to talk so much crap about girls like the 1 hes w/now!! We liked each other for almost 3 yrs, before we actually started going out. We had the same class together last yr. and this nice looking guy was always flirting w/me. He was very jealous. Well what a coincidence, he picked out this 14 yr old in the same class, asked her out to a party, then the next night they have sex! So the rest of the yr. i had to sit and watch him get all over her, but he would make comments about this guy flirting w/me out loud, or when any guy would touch me! He spoke from his heart when he use to put things in his profile about me "I love you (name) always and forever"!! (Very touching things) His away messages were usually about me. With her, he just says, "i love you(name) time flys when your in love, your my best friend and the best girl a guy could want". He keeps referring to her as his "best friend". (i was his love) Its been a year (hes been w/her that long too) and i still have feelings for him. I really truly loved him. Why dont i hate him after all hes put me through. (im just covering the surface, there is so much more to this) Its like i really want him back, but i dont know if i could handle hearing about his gf, and everything they did. How can you have what youve once had with some1, after theyve been in a sexual relationship. She rubs it in my face alot about how happy they are, and how he loves her, and not me, and SEX!! I feel in my heart that hes not "in love" with her. She has broken up w/him a few times, and would IM me to tell me, then we would talk and compare. shes told me she thinks he doesnt care, or really love her. especially when i told her how he was w/me, but the fact that hes still w/her just proves that im wrong, as she says! i feel that if i told him how i felt, he would come back to me! i really need your help. This is a constant dilema for me everyday. I cant stop thinking about it, and i dont know what to do. My heart is true, and i feel like i truly do know what love is, because he just keeps tearing my world apart. I dont fall easy for guys. It took me almost 3 yrs to fall in love w/him, and i dont want any1 else. This is our last yr of high school, and i want him to be back in my life again....someday soon! Please send your advice asap!! I dont know if i can wait a month!!! Thanks for your patience (being this is so long) Sincerely, ME!

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The last year of high school should be the best!

Do whatever you can do to get him back so you can enjoy this part of your life.

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