He said a modeling girl and shyness are impossible

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Your original question is below.

There seem to three problems going on: 1) your shyness 2) distance and 3) he has a girlfriend.


If you could slowly get over your shyness that would do wonders for your relationship. When he asks you for a kiss or to say "I love you" try to imagine you are talking with your dad or brother or close friend. Perhaps this will help you get over the shyness. Or ask him to go first and you repeat after him.

The distance problem is not easily solvable. You two could arrange to meet for a weekend or a week someplace convenient for both of you. Or perhaps he could come visit you. And, you may find you don't like him after all.

The girlfriend problem will go away if you can solve #1 and #2


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hi george, im so happy to get your reply.

Personally, I myself gotta problem that makes him drift away from me.

I may be a model but when it comes to relationship, im a very shy girl, george. In the beginnin of the relationship, he always wanna talk to me on phone(thru skype program), but i felt so shy, i dunno why. (I wasnt shy to everyone but just to him).

After he kept askin me for a many times, i decided to give it a go, hehehe. And of course, u kno, he is tryna make me feel comfortable but i still feel tense. The conversation last shortly as he feels im uncomfortable. And u kno wut, he didnt ask me to talk again on the phone. :( when i feel like callin up, he would say, like later or smth else.

He asked me for a kiss on the phone n also to say the magic word 'i love u' but im too shy! Wut should i do George! Why m i sooo shy to express my emotion love to him.

He dont believe me that im shy cus he said a modeling girls and shyness are impossible. SIGH....GEOORRRRGGGEEEEEEEEEEEE, wut should i do.

I know he loves me too much, (he wus the one who wus sooo afraid of losing me. and now he got a new g/f) (i think i can save this relationship if only i know the right way to his heart) (i believe sooo much that he stills love me, but something jus troubling him - distance, distance, distance) (how can i make him feel that though we are far, we are still near) (is there a way geroge)

he thinks im the one who doesnt love him. If i told him, that i love, care, trust him etc. he would say that, he cant help himself, as distance blocked him from seeing the truth n reality.

George, my story is rather complicated, really complicated for u. cus there are so many stages n change of behavior, thinkin, etc goin on. but i hope u can gimme any good advice that comes to your heart as you read this. Cus i got soooo many problems with him n i wil like to get advise a topic at a time. I hope u really can help me. thanks george. Love ya!

By the way, today i send him an sms, asking him, "E, are you seriously gotta new g/f or u jus making me jealous??"

He didnt send me back a reply. What dyou think of this??

George, when u reply, can u attach my question with ur reply too....sorry to trouble u. Thanks a lot, yea, george.

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Your original question is below.

You have three problems: 1) your shyness 2) distance 3) his girlfriend.

Try getting over the shyness by pretending you are talking to your parents, or a brother or a good friend. You could also ask him to say or do things first and you follow him.

Distance-- this is a real killer for most romances. Perhaps you two could meet somewhere for a week or weekend. Or he could come visit you. More talks on the regular phone would help.

Girlfriend-- if you can solve the first two problems this one will probably go away. Right now you aren't sure she is for real and he isn't answering your question. So maybe there is no girlfriend.

If he hasn't seen you, send him some photos so he can have something to look at and help him remember you.

I hope some of this helps! George
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hi george, im so happy to get your reply.

Personally, I myself gotta problem that makes him drift away from me.

I may be a model but when it comes to relationship, im a very shy girl, george. In the beginnin of the relationship, he always wanna talk to me on phone(thru skype program), but i felt so shy, i dunno why. (I wasnt shy to everyone but just to him).

After he kept askin me for a many times, i decided to give it a go, hehehe. And of course, u kno, he is tryna make me feel comfortable but i still feel tense. The conversation last shortly as he feels im uncomfortable. And u kno wut, he didnt ask me to talk again on the phone. :( when i feel like callin up, he would say, like later or smth else.

He asked me for a kiss on the phone n also to say the magic word 'i love u' but im too shy! Wut should i do George! Why m i sooo shy to express my emotion love to him.

He dont believe me that im shy cus he said a modeling girls and shyness are impossible. SIGH....GEOORRRRGGGEEEEEEEEEEEE, wut should i do.

I know he loves me too much, (he wus the one who wus sooo afraid of losing me. and now he got a new g/f) (i think i can save this relationship if only i know the right way to his heart) (i believe sooo much that he stills love me, but something jus troubling him - distance, distance, distance) (how can i make him feel that though we are far, we are still near) (is there a way geroge)

he thinks im the one who doesnt love him. If i told him, that i love, care, trust him etc. he would say that, he cant help himself, as distance blocked him from seeing the truth n reality.

George, my story is rather complicated, really complicated for u. cus there are so many stages n change of behavior, thinkin, etc goin on. but i hope u can gimme any good advice that comes to your heart as you read this. Cus i got soooo many problems with him n i wil like to get advise a topic at a time. I hope u really can help me. thanks george. Love ya!

By the way, today i send him an sms, asking him, "E, are you seriously gotta new g/f or u jus making me jealous??"

He didnt send me back a reply. What dyou think of this??

George, when u reply, can u attach my question with ur reply too....sorry to trouble u. Thanks a lot, yea, george.

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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