I have bought her a lovely loveheart necklace for xmas

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend (33yrs old) of two years is really confused and within a week has requested a break (I had failed to commit twice before- I bought a ring but due to my insecurity & lack of guts i didnt ask at a romantic time and i feel bad about this) and she doesnt know how she feels about me anymore. She also has a friend that is telling her that im insecure and has a ex husband, which she has two beautiful girls too & sees daily).

Within this time my father was dying and this break has broken my heart (although positively my father's death and loving words have given my strength to take the risk of love and to commit now). As my father was dying, I have needed her and due to the break she wasnt there. I have bought a ring for her and proposed to her (now that I have the guts) and know i love her and she freaked as this was the worst time to do it.

She insists on a break where we be friends without seeing each other and doesnt know how she feels and is looking at breaking up for six months while she has time to think. I have asked is there another man but she has said no. I have bought her a lovely loveheart necklace for xmas. I have not backed off completely and have been ringing her as i am getting over dads death.

Should I backoff completely until she comes around?
How long should I give the break?
What can i do? Have I stuffed things?
How can I show her I love her during a break period?
Should I not give her the necklace for xmas???
Should I be scared of the ex moving in during this break period and am i better off breaking up?
Was my committment too late?


Please help asap
God Bless

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RomanceClass.com Advice
Should I backoff completely until she comes around?
--> Call her once a week for 15 min to see how she is doing and to let her know you still love her.
How long should I give the break?
--> Three months
What can i do? Have I stuffed things?
--> Just stay in touch with her
How can I show her I love her during a break period?
--> When you talk with her on the phone tell her.
Should I not give her the necklace for xmas???
--> Yes, everyone likes a present.
Should I be scared of the ex moving in during this break period and am i better off breaking up?
--> If he moves in significantly, you would be better off breaking up.
Was my committment too late?
--> Apparently yes.

Good luck! George



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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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