Once someone is in love..they forget all about scruples and principles

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'm another 21 years old, within less than 24 hours tomorrow..will be another year, and not far after I'll be 22..

Time sure flies, doesn't it?

Heh..I'm such a failure.

I'm not average, yet I am.
I know my strengths, but perhaps not all my weakenesses.
Yea..I'm average looking, some girls sometimes say I'm handsome, but I know where I fall into.
I'm intelligent, but not a genius.
I know how to dress, with style.
I'm not boring, and quite witty, if I do say so myself, lol.
I am honest, sincere and understanding.
Current occupation: Student
After March next year, hopefully: pharmacy technician
Many interests due to my curiosity.
I value friends, family and relationships.
I uphold strong chinese principles..and perhaps..
those are also part of my flaws.
I recognise that in order to meet people,
one must take part in activities involves..people.
Interaction with people with shared interests seem be a good choice as well.
I have learned on this website, that it's best to participate in coed activities..like dancing, right?

Alas..I have never dated..I get rejected one after another.
It's hard, very hard..
It pains me to know that I may never find a relationship.

My flaws..
There are several occasions I notice, where I would be at some place, or taking a regular bus..you can notice that someone is interested in ya..or seems..
I don't want to interfere with other people's relationships..I fear being the 3rd person..and thus limits me.
Oh yea..there's this one big mistake that does reoccur..I say that I follow my heart..but sometimes it's really hard to control it..what I mean is..when someone attracts me, I find it hard to develop friendship..I am either too direct (too eager), or feel that I am of no match, and I don't even ask for an attractive one, just an average one with a good personality will do.
They say love is like a gamble..
I never liked gambling..but ironically I must gamble.
But..I can only lose so much before I am broke.
Yup! You got it, I don't have much friends either, and thus I'm not that outgoing, but I know I can be..with the right chance..hard-headed you might say.
Ah..yes, because we are not taught these stuff..
and I had to learn from scratch..it just makes me laugh when I think back to all the silly mistakes I made..
Back in grade 11..I would have never known what the term "stalking" was..boy..I'll never forget that, haha.
I am so plagued with black luck..and I don't even believe in predetermined fate..I believe that life is controlled by the combination of fate and free will, where fate is variable.

I heard from a girl I once tried to win her heart..
Girls need security..
And by this..does this mean I need to be financially successful? I think not..but it doesn't seem entirely false either.

People will only try to understand other people when you have a certain trait that makes you special. Just like an employer looking for the best candidate..he doesn't give a damn who you are, but he will if you catch their attention.

But if I become financially successful..I feel I would no longer be able to completely trust that person, whether that person is for love or for wealth? In other words, when you are successful, you attract both types..but who's who? Can you tell?

The only possible cases that I can think of, is if I go out and randomly choose someone or if that person shows a ton of sincerity.

Heh..then I'm contradicting myself because I felt it too..
Once someone is in love..they forget all about scruples and principles..it no longer concerns, and they can violate the very foundamental axiom they hold to be true.

Haha..sorry, I got a bit carried away..
I'm so hopeless.
Thanks for reading.
I know what I must do..but I just need a shoulder, thanks.

PS. Any help will be greatly appreciated however, lmao.

Hiro

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RomanceClass.com Advice
You are a very deeply analytical man.

And, you are very good at it. Unfortunately, it contributes to your inability to make friends and to find a girlfriend.

You should make it a priority (after next March) to make friends, especially with your coworkers. Finding a girlfriend will naturally after making friends. You will also have more time once your studies are over. And you will have more money to socialize with.

So, look to March as the new starting point in your life! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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