I'm not sure if this is the right place for this thread, but arguments can lead to break-ups, so ...
I read a letter to an agony aunt in a newspaper the other day.
The female writer said that, when something negative happens in her relationship, she shouts & screams and has even been known to throw things - at him! It's usually all over in minutes ~ or hours at most - and then she is back to her usual self. She is annoyed and upset with her partner, though, because his behaviour is different. He sulks. He refuses to speak to her. It takes a few days before he is back to his usual self. She thinks that a good argument clears the air and that sulking is silly.
The agony aunt replied that it is unfair to expect your partner to argue just because you do. And things can be said in an argument that are not said during the silent treatment & which cannot be taken back. Ignoring someone, which appears to be sulking, is unpleasant because it is meant to be ~ just as throwing insults or articles is meant to be unpleasant.
What do you think of this?
