You mentioned a concern that they might run his life but he has demonstrated loyalty and independent thinking when he defended you. He defended you by saying his grades had improved while seeing you which tells me that their concern was if a relationship would be a destraction. I still say, that you should talk with them in a friendly manner so that they can hear from your own mouth what kind of a person you are. It doesn't sound like they have a problem with you at all. Perhaps you boyfriend has demonstrated a need for...motivation in the past and they are concerned that his grades will suffer. If they realize how motivated you are, it will aleviate any fears they may have. It is a difficult transition for parents to go through. Knowing when their encouragement and motivation is no longer needed by their offspring. Let go too soon and and they may not take off and fly properly. Hold on too long and your controlling.
