Letting go
So, it's been quite awhile or maybe only a short amount of time since you thought this person could be 'the one' for you, but in any case it's ended and caused you enough heartache to look to websites for help. Assuming he ended it with you, the first step is to realize things have changed and that means his feelings towards you have changed. There is no longer a need to wonder what you can do to 'convince' him to love you again. There is no need to call him and no need to continue to be his friend unless you feel you can do that without dying a little inside each time. You're probably right in assuming he will miss you. He won't miss you until you move on though because until then you continue to be an option for him. Sex will not make him love you. Do not offer a commitment free sex relationship in order to keep him in your life. No one is worth that.
Why do you like this guy so much? Have you ever felt this about someone before, honestly? Do you feel that without him you are alone? Do you feel that no one else will find you attractive? Why are you afraid to let go?
These are a few questions to spend some time on.
You are worth something. You deserve someone who loves you unconditionally. You could have someone who doesn't play silly games with your heart and someone who would die before even thinking about letting you go. Sometimes the worst of events are blessings in disguise.
And take comfort in the fact that everyone at one point or another has felt exactly what you are feeling. It doesn't last forever :)
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