What's wrong with me? Suggest Advice Do you have some advice for this person? Visitor's Question: Ok, so, I seem to have a problem getting closer to people, girls specifically. I AM NOT SHY, but when i start getting close, for reasons I can't explain, I go mean on them. I do it to everyone I get "to close" to. I've been listening to Love Line and it gor me thinking that there's an underlying reason for this. Is there any specific reasons or things that I can do to help get over this? Like, saying think before you act or things that seem obvious, I've tried. Our Suggestion: It sounds like you have a fear of closeness. Every time you start to get close to someone you do things to drive them away. Make sure you smile often when you talk. A smile does wonders for both the smiler and the smilee. Listen carefully to what the other person says and take an immediate interest and respond appropriately. Practice sharing your own positive feelings. Get used to saying "I like" and making positive comments about other peoplle. All of these techniques will make you more likeable. Remind yourself when you interact with people that you want to be closer to them. Eliminate the negative thoughts and feelings and strengthen your positive feelings. Good luck! George --Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com Your Advice: IMPORTANT NOTE: This form is not for getting advice!! This form is for adding your helpful note to THIS existing question. If you need advice, pleae read the Advice Pages. Your Gender: Female | Male Your Age Range: Select an Age Range 13-20 21-30 31-40 41-50 51-60 61+ Theme by TheBootstrapThemes