I need adviseSuggest AdviceDo you have some advice for this person? Visitor's Question: Hi, Can you help with some advice. I began seeing a girl (18) who is bisexual and who I really liked. When I started seeing her she told me she was going to university in a month. Because of this I thought it would be nothing serious. We had a month of great times and became really close. (honeymoon period). When she left for uni, she wanted us to continue together as a couple. During her first week away. She missed me and i travelled down to see her. Everything was great. We used to talk all night on every subject. However the subject came onto sexual fantasy and 3 sum sex. We discussed a role play fantasy situation in which another man was involved. After wards she told me she had already done this with a previous partner and a friend of his that she did not know. A stranger! The girl had previously made a huge effort to tell me that she did not know how anyone could sleep with a stranger, she could not do it and thats why I could trust her. When I heard this, I questioned around the subject of it being a stranger, but instead of discussing and reasuring me she closed off and stonewalled me. This lead to me doubting the type of person I was with. I subsequently lost my temper and said some horrible things about her. She ended the relationship. I had not just stopped to listen to her side of things. I have since then tried to get us back together but she just wanted to remain friends. Every time we talked or texted each other we ended up in an argument. I got angry at this, frustrated and lashed out, saying again some horrible things. She is now not speaking to me. I really love this girl and i am angry at my reaction and want her back. However she is not speaking to me at the moment. Can you advise on how I make up for the comments I made due to anger and frustration, How I get this girl back into my life and also how I deal with what she has done! If she had done this as two couples experimenting in their sex lives I could accept this. But to be used as a sex object from a man who will brag about this as a trophy and her ex partner who has clearly shown her no respect is disgusting to me. How can she let herself be used like this, especially when she acts and gives off the impression she is totally different. I am very confused as to where to go now, how to proceed. Can you help. (the girl is friends with all her ex's but not with me as she says I have been more judgemental and disrespectfull than anyone she has been with. ? I didn't let my friends use her ? ). The girl is now saying it was a mistake, but didn't say it at the time. Our Suggestion: How can you expect her to take you back when it is clear that you still harbor bad feelings toward her and disrespect her. Everytime you have talked you get into a fight and sometimes say dreadful things to her. If you want her back you will need to get these thoughts out of your mind one way or the other. Otherwise why do you want her back? Once you are convinced that you are over your bad feelings, you will have a much better chance of getting her back. You knew going into this that she was unconventional and it should have come as no surprise that at her young age she might experiment. Good luck! George --Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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