he moved away..and i dont know what to do

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So I dated this guy for about a month. Even though we were just getting to know each other, I felt a deep connection somehow and i met his parents, he met mine, etc.. It was going great. Well, one Wednesday he called me and told me he was moving back to his hometown on Saturday. This was because his dad didnt want him to live there anymore and he was having problems at school, so he was going back to live with his mom. Really this was not his choice...so I was stunned it was on such short notice. But anyway, we hung out on Friday and we had a HEAVY make-out session, actually i gave him a hand-job which something that I had said I wouldnt do because im a virgin and i had really never done ANYTHING until him but when the moment hit i was like "forget it, last time ill see him, i should make it special..." He never mentioned anything about us staying together or breaking up, and I thought I would mess up the "goodbye" moment if I said anything, so I didnt. Well that night when he dropped me off to my house I joked around about him getting another girlfriend, and he said that he wouldnt be able to because he loved me so much, it would be hard to move on. So the next day was all romantic and stuff because he wanted to see me before leaving and somehow he wasnt able to call me until about 30 mins before his plane left...so i got to the airport, somehow, 5 mins before it left, and it of course wasnt enough (but at least i tried) and so we were on the phone and looking at each other from far away and he said he loved me and he would call me whenever he got there.
He called me the day after, which i completely understand cuz it takes a while to get settled and stuff..
except we only talked for like 10 mins. then he called me later that night and we talked pretty normal, he even introduced me to his best friend since kindergarden that he hadnt seen in like ever...and everything was good.
then the next day i had to call him...(i didnt think he was ever going to cuz it was so late) and he sounded pretty careless...then he mentioned "long distance relationships not working" so i asked if it was over, and he was like "i never said that." so i was like "then wat r u trying to say" and he was like "that it would be hard.. but we can try it if u want" and i was like "well really its up to you, i know i CAN do it, its really up to you" and then he said he'd be back and then hung up.
...So an hour later I called back. and he was like "why did u hang up on me?!" and i was like "no i didnt" then he hung up again.
...So 5 mins later I called back. and he was like "why did u hang up on me?!" and i was like "well..u know YOU'RE supposed to call ME back when that happens" and he was like "sorry" and then he said he was watching tv so he would call me the day after, and i did that girl thing that is like "ok.." in a very dissapointed tone, so he was like "whats wrong?" so i was like "well, im just very insecure and i think ur just gonna go with another girl" and he said he loved me and that he wouldnt do that, but he was really tired and would call me the day after at 5 pm.
He didnt call.
So i decided to not pick up if he did call, to "make him miss me".
He called the next day at 5. And i didnt pick up. I said I would pick up the SECOND time he called, but he never did call a second time...so I just havent talked to him since.
A week later I gave in and called him two days in a row, one time each.
He didnt pick up.
...It sounds like he was just trying to end it without actually ending it, right??
Well, thats what i thought until i talked to his best friend that still lives here (not the one i talked to on the phone, but the one he had here) and he said that he kept calling him too but he wouldnt pick up.
Strange??
I dont know what to do...it's been 3 weeks.
Should i get over him??
How do i get over him if he hasnt done anything wrong?
What if something happened to him..?
...why would he tell me he wouldnt forget about me or go with some other chick, then..?
why is he not talking to his friend either? I KNOW they were still cool. There is really NO reason why he wouldnt call him or pick up when HE called. And i KNOW this friend of his isnt lying to me about not talking to him because hes my friend too and i know he wouldnt do that.
...could this have anything to do with the "hand job" i gave him? as in, i'll be attached for two days then ill forget about u cuz u gave me what i wanted"??
Am i just excusing him too much and he's actually trying to cut all ties with me??
...Am i over-analyzing?
if so, how do i get over it??

Thanks for any help. :]

Our Suggestion:
You have already found out why long distance romances usually don't work out.

Not enough good solid communications including in person makes it difficult to understand each other.

You've done pretty much everything you can do to try to keep this thing with him going. I don't think the hand-job had anything to do with it. I advise you to forget him and find someone new.

Good luck! George

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