Do I like him, does he like me, and what about my boyfriend?Suggest AdviceDo you have some advice for this person? Visitor's Question: It all started at my first year of band camp. There was a boy there - his name will be "J" for now - who I met through my best friend (her name will be "ree"). He was ree's crush at the moment, so I stayed away from him. When band camp was over, ree and J were going out. I felt happy for ree, and nothing else, since I had a boyfriend of my own whom I loved (note for later: my boyfriend goes to a different school, but we live very close to each other). I still didn't socialize with J, though. I personally thought he was a jerk to others, and that he didn't know his boundaries, being a first-timer in a relationship. It wasn't until after the New Year that I became more acquainted with him. The day we got back from Winter Break, he suddenly tried to start a conversation with me during lunch (we have the same group of friends, so we sit by each other a lot). Most of the subjects were ordinary and casual - i.e. What's up? How's life? What do you think we'll do in Japanese class? - until: J - "...Hey, I've never hugged you before, have I." (It was more of a statement than a question) me - "...Yeah, so? Why would you want to hug me? You have a girlfriend, anyway." J - "Well, yeah, but...you're just..really cute, and....." (He mumbled the next few words before fading off) ree and J silently broke up about a week later. After that, J and I became closer as acquaintances, and we eventually became friends. we talk to each other more often (sometimes even about personal matters), tease each other, etc. And here's the problem: Lately, though, he's been sending little hints of him possibly like-liking me (ex: he gave me an unexpected hug, pats me on the head, leaned his arms on my shoulders...). However, whenever I take some of those hints a little more seriously, he goes back to flirting with ree (According to ree, J still might have feelings for her. they still have 3/4-hour-long conversations on the phone many days of the week). J knows that I have a boyfriend, and that I don't intend on breaking up with him anytime soon...but because I hang out with J a lot during school (and because of his "hints"), I think I might be developing feelings for him (but I'm not entirely sure). So... Is this a sign that I need to move on? Do I really have a crush on J/Does J possibly like me? How can I be sure of my/J's feelings? What should I do about my boyfriend? In all essence...what should I do, overall? Our Suggestion: Forget about J. Put him aside so you can concentrate on your boyfriend. This will cause both you and J to start thinking seriously about how you really feel about each other. If it is meant to be then you and J will get together. Do this for about two weeks and then decide how you really feel about J and how J feels about you. Right now you can't tell how J feels... maybe in two weeks you will have a better idea. Good luck! George --Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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