How do I talk to my girlfriend about sex?

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My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 months. We both love each other very much. We're also both Virgins. I want to have sex, but can wait if the girl is not ready. How do I bring up the conversation of sex with my girlfriend? I can live without it, but I would like to know where we both stand on the issue.

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This one is pretty easy. Just ask her how she feels about sex. Let her know right up front that you are NOT pressuring her, but that you would like to know where she stands. And tell her how you stand on the matter, and that you are willing to wait.

You don't have to wait for the perfect moment to bring this up. Just ask when you are both hanging out, privately, when you are both in a good mood. Don't bring it up when kissing or being intimate - there may be too much pressure in that moment.

The best relationships are based on open communication, honesty and trust. It sounds like you two have a great start. :-)

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