Mixed Signals from a Girl

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There is a girl I like in my high school. I'm sorta friends with her and I can't tell if she likes me as just as a friend or more. I hangout with her sometimes, but I'm afraid of coming on too strong. Sometimes, I have come on stronger than I think I should. I get some signal from her that she does not want to be around me. She talks kinda quick on the phone and tells me she has to go. I can't tell whether she is telling me she is busy, or if she just wants to get away from me. What is going on?




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It could be that she's nervous about the relationship - that she doesn't want to damage the good friendship she has with you by risking something more. It's a pretty common fear. It sounds like you're doing a good job of trying to slide into it slowly - by keeping up the good friendship and just increasing it a bit so she doesn't get skittish.

I'd keep going at it in that manner. Keep flirting and being friendly, give her a hug hello or goodbye sometimes. Ask her about her family, tell her about yours, build up that connection. If she does resist a bit, just wait a little while and then try again more slowly. Hopefully she'll see that you won't lose the friendship by getting closer - that it'll just make the bond between you more strong.


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