He also stated that he felt like he needed to date other girls

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MY boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and I just gave birth to our baby girl 2 months ago. A month after she was born he told me that he wanted to go out and be with his friends(boy/girls). He also stated that he felt like he needed to date other girls since this was his first real relationship(we are both 20 and I am his first person he has slept with). I had a hard time with it at first but then I dicided if he needs to do this before we get married then we can get it over with and then we could move on. I guess im wondering if this is stupid of me? Is he really just trying to play me? Is he trying to be sure that im the one for him? I don't know what to believe! HELP




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It's a crap shoot.

He probably is sincere about his desire to have more experience with women before marrying you. But you run the risk of him falling in love with one of them. That leaves you with no father for your child and probably in financial trouble.

If you don't let him do what he wants to, he may do it behind your back and the above scenario could still happen. Or, he may stay faithful to you. In that case there is a chance that he will wait five years and then cheat on you when you have more children and a marriage invested in him.

My advice is going to a marriage counselor and see if you can work out what will work best for you two.

Good luck!
George


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