is that she is 23. This makes me feel quite insecure over expressing my feelings to her

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Visitor's Question:
First of all, I'd like to thank you guys for running a site like this. Now to my predicament... Im a 20/21 (almost 21) yr old male. Ive started to like a girl
recently. but the catch is that she is 23. This makes me feel quite insecure over expressing my feelings to her (obviously petrified of being shot down). Also my whole group of friends are quite close and I wouldnt want to end up in an awkward situation.

What Id like to be advised on is:
1. Is it a common thing where a female is 2-3 yrs older than the male in the relationship?
2. A good friend told me that she had her eye on me about a year ago.. but only now have I started to have feelings for her(not sure where I stand in her books now). We are texting each other loads at the moment. I dont want to freak her out by coming on too quickly, but what should my next move be to become more intimate to finally lead to me asking her out?




Our Suggestion:
Forget about the age difference-- it shouldn't matter at all.

As far as advancing the relationship try this non-aggressive but honest approach: tell her you are "developing feelings" for her. She may need a day to figure out a response, but she may just say she likes you too.

From that point, smooth sailing.

Don't worry about getting shot down, remember "it is better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all."

Good luck!
George

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




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