I called his cell phone number and his girlfriend answered

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I AM DEVISTATED. I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN FOR 6 YEARS. WE HAD LIVED TOGETHER UNTIL A YEAR AGO, AND I MOVED BACK TO ARKANSAS FROM FLORIDA, BECAUSE OF A SPINAL INJURY THAT I NEEDED A SPECIALIST FOR. I HAVE BEEN BACK TO VISIT HIM, AND HE HAS COME TO VISIT ME, AND EVEN PROPOSED TO ME. THE PLANS WERE THAT HE WOULD BE COMING HERE IN DECEMBER TO HUNT FOR A JOB AND MOVING HERE, SO WE COULD SPEND OUR LIFE TOGETHER. THE LAST FEW MONTHS, I MUST ADMIT, I NOTICED HIS CALLS WERE SCARCE, AND HE COULDN'T COMMIT TO A FIRM DATE FOR COMING HERE. HE CONTINUED TO TELL ME HE LOVED ME, AND I WAS THE ONE HE WANTED TO SHARE HIS LIFE WITH, AND ALWAYS CONVINCED ME OF THIS, EVEN AFTER I HAD QUESTIONED IF HE HAD MET SOMEONE! WELL, ONE FRIDAY IN DECEMBER, I CALLED HIS CELL PHONE NUMBER, AND HIS GIRLFRIEND ANSWERED. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT. JUST A FEW DAYS PRIOR HE HAD BEEN CALLING ME SWEETIE PIE, AND HAD MET THIS GIRL THE FIRST WEEKEND OF DECEMBER, AND APPARENTLY HAD BEEN STAYING AT HER HOUSE EVERY SINCE. IT'S BEEN A LITTLE OVER A MONTH, AND HE HAS NEVER CALLED ME TO EXPLAIN, IT WAS JUST OVER! LAST WEEKEND, HER HUSBAND, WHOM SHE HAS BEEN SEPERATED FROM FOR 5 MONTHS CAME BACK INTO TOWN, AND SHOT MY EX! HE HAS BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL, AND LUCKY TO HAVE SURVIVED. I HEAR HE IS PLANNING ON MARRYING THIS GIRL, AND ADOPTING HER 5 MONTH OLD BABY! WHAT??? I AM AT A TOTAL LOSS HERE. THE MAN THAT I HAVE LOVED AND TRUSTED FOR 6 YRS., NOT ONLY CHEATED ON ME, BUT NOW HE'S GOING TO MARRY THE GIRL, AFTER A MONTH, AND WAS SHOT OVER HER. WHAT HAVE I MISSED HERE? TO TOP IT ALL OFF, I FOUND OUT FROM HIS MOTHER THAT HE HAD CHEATED ON ME WITH AT LEAST ONE OTHER GIRL, BECAUSE HE BROUGHT HER OVER TO HER HOUSE. I FEEL SO BETRAYED AND LOST. I AM IN A TOTAL STATE OF SHOCK AND DISBELIEF. WHY DIDN'T HE JUST END IT WITH ME? I AM CERTAIN THE ONLY REASON IT IS OVER NOW, IS BECAUSE ONCE I CALLED AND GOT HIS GIRLFRIEND ON THE PHONE, I LET HER KNOW ALL ABOUT ME, AND HOW HE'D BEEN CALLING ME TELLING ME HE LOVED ME AND WAS MOVING HERE. I HAVE LEFT OUT THE FACT THAT HE LOST HIS HOME AFTER I MOVED BECAUSE HE COULDN'T MAKE THE MORTGAGE PYMTS., SO I AM CERTAIN, HE HAS BEEN LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO HELP HIM. THAT IS PROBABLY WHY HE MOVED IN WITH HER. BUT, WHY CONTINUE TO CALL ME AND GO ALONG WITH ALL OF OUR PLANS? WHY DID HE NOT JUST END IT WITH ME? ANY ADVICE, WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED, AND MUCH NEEDED!




Our Suggestion:
After six years with you, he felt guilty about what he had done.

It's probably just that simple... he couldn't face up to what he had done.

You should be worrying about yourself and forget that selfish man!

Good luck. George

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