It does seem fairly like troll behavior for someone to come on and as their very first act to invest a substantial amount of time in critiquing how various members of an established forum handle their interactions. A typical member would work to become part of a community before embarking on a step-by-step attempt to explain to everyone else why what they are doing is right or wrong for their community.
I think it's fair to state that RatherIncoherent's behavior is fairly suspect. He is apparently being drawn into this by an existing member to "argue a side" (or simply to "cause trouble"). This is not the purpose of these forums.
RatherIncoherent - as you are clearly brand new, maybe you feel critiquing other people is a normal and accepted activity for a forum. It is not normal nor accepted here. While we would love to have you stay and be a productive member of our forum, if your sole purpose is to make judgments about other members then we will need to ask you to find another forum where that behavior is a focus.
I would ask other existing forum members not to exacerbate the potential troll situation here. Let us give him the benefit of the doubt for another post or two to see if he can adjust to the way our forum operates. The moderators will keep a close eye on any future posts he might make. If it does become clear that his main intention is to upset people or to criticize people, then we will take appropriate action.
*Shrug* I don't really know how to respond? May as well start with context:
I always communicate like this. In my view, there is absolutely no worth in stating an opinion if you don't do it thoroughly. Often times that drives me to go through absolutely ridiculous lengths to make points (or, in this case, to make a vast number of points).
Next, I admitted coming into this that I was told by an outside source to check out this particular thread. Isn't it then inherent that this would be the first thread I post in? Likewise, does "arguing a side" mean trolling? If people didn't argue for or against varying opinions, were there only one opinion (a fact), you would have a website that consisted of a single, public-notice sentence and not a forum.
As for making judgements: Did I? I'm asking to have my judgements pointed out here, because I didn't realize I was doing it. Later, when I'm a bit less flustered, I'll reread my post a few times and see what it was for myself.
If it's just the way I'm communicating that comes off as that, I'll try to change it (although, I find it funny in a rather depressing way that my natural method of communication is against the rules).
As for my "sole purpose", late to the party though I may be, didn't I offer advice? Yes, it was muddled by my massive number of individual responses, but in my 2 posts directed at the OP I made 2 points. The first was that it was really hard to judge the situation because the person sounded as though they were friends due to vagueness. My second piece of advice was, coldly, not to (emotionally) value the opinions of the internet. I admit that I wasn't able to give advice on the matter that was meant to be at hand (does he like me?), but I was able to give advice on either what the scenario was or what I needed to be more able to justifiably give that advice.
Anyway, I'm going to refrain from posting for a bit. At the time, I'm having a hard time thinking level-headedly. I'd explain why, but I doubt I could do it without being extremely aggressive at this point in time.
