I cheated on him & married his FriendWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I was comitted to a guy for 4 yrs.it was'nt a very stable relationship but we had accepted each other. we had always desired to stay together whatevr may happen. We had no communication & understanding but gradually we accepted each other. we were there for each other in each other's worst times all these 4 years. He sometimes had hit me too, abused me too but after a lot of fighting we used to conclude that we cant stay without each other. I felt insulted by his friends & family members lots of times but it was going like this until I met his friend, who was mature, stable, gave me attention, took care of me&.. He liked me in first go.But I was very firm that I will not leave my BF,despite the new guy was caring, loving, understanding.gradually I started disliking my bf.things which i used to ignore initially started pinching me then. this new guy stayed near my place & I used to go there quite often,One night we ended up sleeping together & really IT WAS MY BEST time Till then.. I couldn't tell my bf next day,I cried a lot cos I had cheated him. after sum time I brokeoff with my bf & married the new guy. he cried inconsolably at that time. my husband & my Ex dont talk anymore. Its been an year but till today My husband has never fought with me,he's really nice & i luv him.he has been truly supportive, but sumtimes those bouts of guilt come to my mind. whenevr i learn that my ex is very upset & is taking antidepressants,I feel terrible.How do I cope with guilt? I'm sure that had I not married my current husband I wont have been happy ever but I feel terrible whenevr I think of my past. I feel I was inhuman to a guy who stood by me for 4 years. User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female What's done is done FIRST OF ALL YOU STATE THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WAS NOT STABLE. THERE IS YOUR ANSWER. YOU STAYED WITH HIM AND HE HIT YOU?? ABSOLUTELY NO WAY YOU SHOULD BE IN ANY RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS. YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE THIS FROM ANYONE!!! IN YOUR SUBCONCIOUS, YOU FEEL GUILTY NOW BECAUSE YOU SLEPT WITH HIS BEST FRIEND. NOW YOU ARE MARRIED TO HIM. IF YOU HAD BEEN HAPPY WITH YOUR EX YOU WOULD'NT HAVE SLEPT WITH HIS BEST FRIEND. SO NOW YOU HAVE TO MOVE FOWARD IN THIS MARRIAGE AND MAKE THE BEST OF IT. THE PAST CANNOT BE RESOLVED. YOU HAVE STARTED A NEW LIFE. MOVE FOWARD AND CONCENTRATE ON THE GOODNESS OF YOUR HUSBAND AND WITH THE TWO OF YOU YOUR FOCUS SHOULD BE ON YOUR MARRIAGE. NO ONE CAN CHANGE THE PAST. ARE YOU BOTH LIVING IN THE SAME TOWN AS YOUR EX? MAYBE IT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA TO MOVE AWAY. WHATS DONE IS DONE. MOVE FOWARD AND MAKE THIS MARRIAGE THE BEST TO YOUR ABILITY. I ALSO HOPE YOU ARE NOT BEING ABUSED BY YOUR HUSBAND! IF YOU ARE, YOU NEED TO GET HELP FOR YOUR PROTECTION. NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO ROB YOU OF YOUR RESPECT. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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