I desperately want to save my marriageWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female My husband of 11 years wants a divorce. It's my fault....well, mostly. I had an affair.....for the usual reasons. I was lonely. We had drifted apart. I will not try to justify my actions. There is no excuse for what I did. For a few weeks he was trying to forgive me and put it all behind us. Then, abruptly he informs me that he wants a divorce. He has recently started "talking" to someone and he wants to move on. I feel like my life is over. I desperately want to save my marriage. I will do anything to get him back. I have pleaded. I'm not sure how to go about this. People have told me to play hard to get, but I need to regain his trust. He says he still loves me, he is just hurt. He says it could never be the same. What do I do. User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female So sad I don't know if I have advice but I'm in the same situation. Our divource has been final for a year and a half but we see each other every weekend and are still intimate. He still can not deal with the hurt i have caused him and he wants to make a fresh start in another state. I am frantic. I know I can not make hime be with me and I ultimately have to acepte his desicion but now I am the one who is hurt. I used to think I wanted out of the marraige but now I find myself unable to let go. It is so sad. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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