Getting over the guy I broke up withWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I'm truly sorry if you have already answered this question, but I couldn't find it quickly. I had been dating this guy for 9 months when he asked me to marry him. We had talked about marriage, so it wasn't completely out of the blue, although I was still a little surprised. I knew at that point that he was not the man for me. The feeling came so strong that I knew it with out even having to think about it. It was easy to say no and turn him down and because of my response we are no longer dating. We both felt it wasn't going to go anywhere because of how strongly I felt that it wasn't right. The problem is, no matter how much I still know it isn't right to marry him, I do miss him and I did love him. He is a very good man with wonderful qualities. After the break-up though, I have no ambition or desire to date anyone else and don't really care. I don't wish I was back with him, but I have no motivation to move on. I'll admit that my experience has been more on the other side. I know what to do when someone breaks up with me, but I haven't really broken up with someone before to this magnitude. I just need some in site and advice to get me through the next few months with out thinking I need to get back together with him, because he has already said he'll wait forever for me. I need to be able to move on for his sake and mine. Please help. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Commitment issues I honestly think you just have commitment issues that need to be resolved before you date again. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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