'there were also times when he was loving and fun, when he was funny. He isnt a bad person, but an alcohol with problems. He is a good dad. As much as I hate it, I still love him.'
Of course. You have been married less than a year, you have a child together, and when he's sober he's nice.
But:
Xmas eve, my husband was arrested on 3 counts of domestic violence.
He was very drunk and ended up hitting me
It was very scary
This is the fourth but most severe case of physical violence
I have been through emotional abuse as well.
He is controlling, hurtful, and very very jealous.
I essentially was not allowed to do anything,
I had to be invisible to avoid angering him.
Do you want to be worrying every year whether your husband will spoil Christmas for your daughter?
Do you want to be hiding bruises from her?
Worse still; what if she angers him when he is drunk and he starts hitting her?
If he can't help but be violent under the influence of alcohol, then this could happen.
If he's an alcoholic and / or if he has anger issues, then then he needs to join a self-help group.
You also need to help yourself and your daughter.
I can understand that you love him & want to believe that he will change, but, from what I have heard, violent men usually don't change.
Your first Christmas with your little girl should have been wonderful ~ not a nightmare. Didn't he care enough?
