I am useless with girls
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old MaleHi
I am a 15 yr old male, who has never had a girlfriend. I dont even have many friends who are girls (a few but not alot) of which none of them are interested in me that way. I've tried other girls in the same class as me, flirted with them, sat next to them, complimented them etc. I always get the impression that they find me extremely unattractive and boring and they have moved away before i get to the flirtatious touching. I have read hundreds of articles posted on the internet about flirting, breaking the ice and dating (including yours) and i am still in the same position as i was before. I am quite shy and it doesnt take alot for me to become embarrassed and my face will go bright red. I am generally a nice guy to be around with, always being nice etc, but it also doesn’t take a lot for me to lose my temper and become angry. Thankfully this doesn’t happen all that often as I hate myself when in that mood.
I get no encouragement from my friends who by the way have had gf’s at some point and I don’t tell my parents about this as they will take the mic (In a joking sort of way) but this embarrasses me. I am 5ft 7in and 74 kg. I am fully aware that I am overweight and am in the process of sorting it out, but this doesn’t help and makes me very self conscience about my self. Things are not much better at home either as my dad moved half way up the country with his new gf, he is now unhappy up there, my mum has got a 7month old baby with my step dad and my mum has also been diagnosed with ms and is now depressed and most of my spare time is taken looking after my half brother as my mum cant cope and my step dad works full time. This often gets me down and because of my weight problem and this I have virtually no self confidence. I really don’t know what to do as far as meeting and flirting with girls anymore. I expect you will not be able to help a lot, but it would be nice if you could.
I am very sorry about the length of this message, but as you can see I had a lot to say. Thanks for all of your help
RomanceClass.com AdviceYou have a lot to worry about but you have heart and that is important.
As hard as it seems to believe, there are large numbers of girls out there crying themselves to sleep because no boy takes an interest in them. You just need to find them. They are likely to be shy like you so you will have to work to get them to come out of their shell.
Look around you and see which girls seem lonely or not in a crowd. You might even look for girls with weight problems. If you could get together then you could work on your weight problem together. Go to dances and notice which girls don't get asked to dance and you ask them.
Tell other girls your problem and ask them if they know of any girls who are looking for someone. Tell them you are not picky. Hope some of this helps!
Good luck, George.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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