My jealousy is killing my marriage.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old MaleMy wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have a 3 year old son. She is a wonderful woman and has never cheated on me. I am a little over protective (over everything) but I never had any insecurity problems until a year ago. I found an e-mail from my wife to a co-worker telling him that she could not wait to see him again, kiss him and hold him in his arms. She also said that it was hard to try to make it too obvious that she was always thinking of him. I confronted both of them. First my wife and she said that it was just a game. Nothing serious. She just wanted to teach this guy a lesson because he thought he was so cool. He said the same thing, just a stupid game and that he had never disrespected my wife nor me. Now I am always insecure, jealous and upset. I don't think she is cheating on me, but it bothers me that she gets attention from other guys (she is beautiful). Now, I get upset if she wants to go out, or go dancing (she has never gone out or dancing with friends before)I feel not important and she says that she needs to go out and have fun once in a while. She says I am controlling and that she does not think she loves me anymore (like she used to). I want to know if I am over reacting or what. I don't want our marriage to end. I know she is not doing anything bad. She goes out with other female friends that I know for a long time (almost like sisters to me)but I still get jealous. I am working on it. What can I do to better things with my wife. I love her very much and I don't want to loose her.
RomanceClass.com AdviceThe best thing you can do is to go to a professional counselor.
They are a lot cheaper and nicer than a divorce.
Ask yourself, do you want to feel jealous for the rest of your life? Well, that's what is going to happen if you don't deal with this fast.
You need to reach the point where you are happy that she is going out with friends and you feel comfortable with what she is doing.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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