Why does he need it?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old FemaleI know that pornography is a big subject. My fiance was out of town and I stayed over at his place to watch his dogs. I was using his computer and there are several files full of porn and five or more porn sites saved on his favorites list. I haven't spoken to him about it yet but I'm so disgusted by it that I won't let him touch me.
Why do guys seem to need that kind of thing? I can't help but feel like now I have to live up to those nasty, surgury enhanced girls. It makes me feel so horrible. We have been having issues with my jealousy for a long time and I'm afraid that he'll be mad at me for saying anything because not only did I pry but I'm also always jealous and suspicious. I have no idea what to do but I'm hoping to get a few answers.
Thank you,
Lonely and Jealous
RomanceClass.com AdviceIt is fairly normal for guys to like porn and their girlfriends to hate it.
Guys see porn as a turn-on... new and adventurous.
Women see porn as disgusting, degrading, and threatening.
I don't think there is any solution to this problem except for guys to stop looking and for women to stop being threatened. This won't happen overnight.
As far as your jealousy and suspicions please take a look at this website:
http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Get them to enjoy
Just talk to him
Porn is ok
