I beat my BF at wrestling & he can't deal!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old FemalePlease help!
I have a problem w/my BF's ego. A few weeks ago I finished taking beginner level judo classes and earned my yellow belt. I really enjoyed the classes and found i was pretty good at it, even tho' i'm not really muscular (i'm tall, 5'9", but slender, and weigh about 125lbs)...plus i'm a pretty girly-looking girl..i wear my hair long and like dresses, etc., and I am considered a "looker."
Anyway, b/c of all this,my BF didn't take my classes very seriously and when I told him i got my yellow belt he just laughed. A lot. And when he was done laughing, well, I was kinda mad and so I challenged him to a wrestling match.
We're the same height but has at least 40lbs on me, and he didn't want to do it at first but after I said 'your just afraid of losing to a girl' he was like, "OK, let me teach you a lesson'.
So we moved some firniture out of the way and we got going and he didn't try very hard at first, b/c he just didn't think he'd have to!
But then i tripped him w/a leg sweep and he went down on the floor, and I could see his face get all and when he got back up he started trying really hard to beat me. Well, long story short, I kept using throws and leg sweeps to send him to the floor, and waited til he got really tired, and then when i could tell his strength was running out, I kept him down on the floor and after a fairly long struggle, I pinned him!
So i had a little at his expense and said "I hope you learned YOUR lesson", but since then he hasn't let it go, and kept after me for a rematch, saying "I got lucky", etc...so last week I finally said "OK" to one more match b/c he wouldnt stop asking, and, yes, I beat him again.
Now he's TOTALLY bent out of shape and keeps trying for another match to prove he can beat me and I need help b/c I'm sick of his attitude!
Was I wrong to defeat him?
Should I just fake it and let him win?
I keep telling him it's just b/c I know judo and he doesn't but he's still angry!
(also, when I suggested we take classes together so he could compete w/me better, he said "I don't need to know judo to beat a girl!" )
what should i do???
RomanceClass.com AdviceTell him you don't want to fight him again because he might hurt you.
Say that you could tell he was holding back the first two matches and you are worried that if he went all out you could get hurt.
Of course that's a crock but sometimes you have to stretch the truth so that everyone can be happy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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