Jealousy and my imagination is ruining my perfect relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old FemaleI'm dating this wonderful guy who I really love. I've been a pretty jealous person my whole life, even with the exes, I feel as though I don't even care for that much but I still got jealous. Now with my current boyfriend, I'm really afraid I'd lose him because we've been arguing/discussing about my lack of trust in him. He tells me that he will never cheat on me, but I see him to be a very sexual person. He said that it is his integrity to not cheat, but I'm not sure if its a rehearsed speech. I want to trust him, but sometimes the thought of him going to a strip club with beautiful women around or going out and meeting a hot woman to fullfill his needs haunts me. In fact, its gotten to a point where I've been thinking about it so much, I have nightmares. He's going on a trip soon and I dont know how I'm going to survive these nightmares. My imagination runs so wild it sounds like it came from some pornography and he laughs at it. How can I get myself to believe his words and not strike an arguement suggesting that he's going to cheat?
RomanceClass.com AdviceJealousy is a terrible thing and has ruined many relationships.
You have to fight jealousy like the enemy it is. Tell it to go away and stop bothering you and that your BF loves you. Do this everytime jealousy rears its ugly head.
Trust is very important. See this website:
http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm
Also see our webpage on jealousty at:
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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