Is it about time I give up?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old MaleI hope you can imagine how desperate it becomes, when it gets to a high schooler asking this kind of a question. But it's like this:
we're both sophomores, and we went out for a good couple of months. she decided, finally, that she had to break it off with me, and that I shouldn't ask why. I didn't ask why... I confessed that I still had feelings for her two months later, and she hesitated before shooting me down again. I'm guessing the third time isn't the charm in this case, and I should just give up, but I can't find away to rid my feelings of her. I guess I never found closure, but she hasn't shown any signs that she wants to get back with me, and she equally doesn't try to freeze me out.
I'm not sure what to do. I've tried concentrating on everything I hate about her, but the only thing is that she complains too much, and she doesn't even complain as much as any of the other girls I know. And every time, right when I think I'm over her, I see her, and the feelings come back stronger than ever.
Homecoming is coming up. the only thing I can think about, is that I'd hate it if a guy asked her out. I guess I'm a bit ambivalent about this situation: I want her back, but I'm sure she'll just shoot me down again, and I don't want to lose anymore than I've already lost with her. But it's the same problem... I don't know how to get over her.
sincerely yours,
Frantic and Confused
RomanceClass.com AdviceYou are right, you need closure.
The best way to do that is to ask her to Homecoming. She will probably reject you again and that will be the third time and there you have your closure.
Or, a miracle may occur and she will accept. Anything is possible.
In any case, your next step is to ask her to the dance.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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