Is she or isn't she?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old FemaleSo my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Things were great until March 2007. She went into this depression. Since then I have found out that in July 2007 she cheated with her ex, but stopped. Then in October 2007 she started "having feelings" for a friend of ours. We talked about everything and started over. Now, there is a guy that we are friends with that I think she is cheating with. She goes to his house all the time and forgets to tell me she is going. I love her more than anything and we have a house together as well as a son. She told me there is nothing between them but she acts all "giddy" when he calls or if she is around him. She told me she thinks he is attractive but she doesn't want to be with him. I think she is sleeping with him. Am I crazy and paranoid? She has told me she wants me and if she didn't then she would have moved out already. HELP!!!
RomanceClass.com AdviceNo, you are not crazy and paranoid. She already cheated on you once.
However, there's not much you can do about what's happening now. If you tried to tell her to stop seeing him that could make it worse.
As long as she says she wants to be with you, take her word for it. What she is saying is true... if she wanted to she could move out.
So, keep your eyes open but don't be so paranoid.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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