I don't know what to do....
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old FemaleI've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and my jealousy has gotten really bad.. It's almost ended our relationship many times. I'm trying so hard to not be jealous but I dont know how to make it stop. Everytime I see another girl I automatically think he's looking at her. Everytime he talks to one of his Chick friends I get really upset and mad and think something is going on. I hate it when he's around other girls. It makes me want to go insane. I tried putting him through a test to see if he was really faithful to me but he found out it was me. I tried texting him from my friends phone and pretended to be another girl and at first he told the chick he had a girlfriend and then he ended up knowing it was me so he just ignored it. I NEED to have solid proof that he isn't going to cheat on me. I'm the kind of person where I need face evidence before I can believe something. I know that if I put him through another test and he passed it would help me a lot. But the problem is I don't have much friends at all. And the few friends I do have he knows all their cell phone numbers. I NEED to put him through another test. I just don't know how. I don't know what kind of test to put him through. I need help... Can you please give me some helpful suggestions on ways I can test his faithfulness.... I'm desperate. I'll try anything to make my jealousy stop. Thank you so much.... I hope to hear from you soon!
RomanceClass.com AdviceYou can't test his faithfulness.
The reason why you can't is because he knows you are trying to catch him and so he won't fall for any tricks.
What you desperately need is trust. Go to the following webpage:
http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm
and read it VERY, VERY carefully. Your love life will depend on how well you can understand yourself and why you are so jealous. You are not the only one who is jealous, it can ruin a relationship and, besides, it hurts very much.
Work very hard at solving this problem, it can not only ruin this relationship, but make all future relationships difficult.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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