Losing your Virginity
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Femalei'm 19 years of age i've been with my boyfriend now for 2 months but it seems a lot longer than that. we've been on holiday together, he is my first boyfriend and i've been lucky first time in finding him. He is everything i'd ever wish for, and we love eachother loads.
he told me that sex doesn't bother him and he is willing to wait however long it takes for me to be ready as i am a virgin. I've been thinking about sex alot recently and i need your advice. i'm very small and through masterbastion inserting one finger hurts so i'm dreading the pain when my first time comes around.
how much will it hurt? will i bleed? and what if i am too small for him to enter me, that it causes me so much pain.
RomanceClass.com AdviceFirst off, your vagina is designed to have an entire infant baby pass through it. Believe me, it can handle something as relatively tiny as a guy's sex organ.
One of the signs of virginity in a girl is a thin membrane (like an eyelid) that covers her vagina and protects it from dust and dirt. It is this membrane that is broken when she has sex with a guy for the first time. If you are able to put your finger into yourself it sounds like there's already a small hole in that membrane and pushing through that membrane-hole hurts because it tugs at the membrane.
So yes during that first sexual experience he'll push away the rest of the membrane and it could hurt and it will bleed. We all have scrapes and bruises and pierced ears and such so obviously the body heals up fine afterwards. Once that membrane is gone I think you won't have any problems at all.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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