She loves me, but has to find herself
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old MaleI have been with my girlfriend with 3.5 years and I could not be happier, she seems to feel the same way. We have been dating since she was a senior in high school and I was already in college(we attended the same high school and now same college). She comes to me and tells me that though she is sure shes loves me and that she is happy, she can't help but feel that she could maybe love me more or find somethign else out there because she has never experienced it on her own. She is just relying on the fact that if we are "meant to be" i'll be waiting for her after she has had her explorations. I am still young and I have been in two relationships of 1.5 years+, but they way I feel with her is enough to keep me satisfied for a lifetime. I want to talk to her, text her, anything, but I feel that would push her further away since I am not giving her space during our time apart. I don't know what to do because I think about her every second of every day and it is distracting me from the things I need to do. Am I supposed to just wait for her because I feel like I can't live without her, or does it not seem fair and I should just move on?
RomanceClass.com AdviceIt's better for her to experiment now rather than get married and the do it. As you said, if you are meant to be, you will live through it.
You are doing the right thing to not push her further away. Just make sure she knows you still love her so she doesn't get confused.
You also can experiment and find out for yourself how much you love her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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Spread her wings
