He cant make up his mind?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Okay so I've had the BIGGEST crush on my best guy friend for a while. Me and him have most of our classes together and we talk on a daily basis and all of his friends tell me he has a huge crush on me too. The problem is.. he has a girlfriend. Him and his girlfriend barely aknowledge each other anymore and Its obvious that their relationship is going downhill. yet he wont break up with her! But then it gets worse... me and him made out over the summer at a party. I have no clue what to do he just cant make up his mind! HELP ME.
My advice will be tough to hear, but don't do anything at all besides be his friend. This guy needs to work out on his own what to do about his current girlfriend. You can't rush that without possibly damaging your own chances at a relationship with him. People resent being pushed.
And if you move in on someone else's guy, you could end up with a bad reputation or really hurting someone. If you want to date this guy after her breaks up with his current girlfriend (if he does), then you need to be blameless.
Do not kiss him again while he is with this girl. If this boy wants you, he will have to work for it by ending his current relationship. Cheating never looks good on anyone, and shows you in a poor light as a potential girlfriend. I realize sometimes things get out of control, but you can resolve to not let your feelings make you 'the other woman' again. :)
Hopefully he will realize this girl is not making him happy, and end things sooner than later. In the meantime, be the best friend to him that you can be. I hope it works out!
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com