We're Both Cheating on our Spouses
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old FemaleI AM MARRIED BUT STILL MY HEART SHOUTS THAT I STILL LOVE MY FIRST LOVE. WE MEET AGAIN AFTER MY 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND WE STILL LOVE EACH OTHER. WE CRIED FOR OUR SO MUCH LOVE. WE MEET BUT WE DO NOT DO THE THING WHAT MARRIED COUPLE DO TO HAVE LESS GUILT. WE JUST HUG AND KISS.
WE REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER. WE THINK WE DON'T LIKE TO BE SEPARATED AGAIN.
WHAT SHALL WE DO? WE ARE MARRIED AND WE DON'T WANT TO HURT OUR PARTNER. SHOULD WE KEEP IT FOREVER? WE REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH...
WE PROMISED THAT WE CAN SURVIVE WITH THIS SITUATION BUT IT IS VERY HARD.
RomanceClass.com AdviceYou are already hurting your partners by betraying their trust repeatedly. Having an affair is having an affair, regardless of which body parts do or do not touch. Your partners trust in you and believe in you. You are violating that.
We all love different people in life. We love our parents, we love our children, we love our best friends, and we love our partners. Our brains are capable of holding multiple loves within them. But if you make a commitment to a partner that needs to mean something. Either you honor it or you free them so they can find someone who WILL honor it.
So you need to make a decision. Either you leave your partners and fully commit to each other - or you stop cheating with each other and commit fully to your partners. Betraying your partners daily just isn't good for anybody at all in this whole situation.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
