I Want to Ask Him Out - He Has a Girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old FemaleWe have known eachother for 2 years. We go 2 the same school. And I flirt with him all the time at lunch. He flirts back. I have dreams about him and i cry sometimes 2 know that were not going out.
I have considered asking him out but i'm scared of what he will say. Plus rumors might spread around the school. I like him alot!! But the school year is almost over. I want 2 ask him out but I always thought that chicks don't ask out guys. I know he likes me cause he called me his monkey in the middle. Plus last year when I was in his class we would hang out in the field and it seemed like one time he tried to hold my hand.
My friends don't like him so i'm scared i'll loose friends if I go out with him. Everyday at school I wait 4 him 2 ask me out. But he doesn't. The big problem is that he has a GIRLFRIEND!!! He would break up with her 4 me I know but the and normally that would b ok but it is my best friend. What would I do. So how do I ask him out.
RomanceClass.com AdviceNO NO NO. If a guy would break up with a girl to go out with another girl, that is NOT a guy you want to be with. It means if he started dating you, and a better choice came along, he'd dump you in a heartbeat. That is not what dating is about. You don't date someone "until something better comes along". You date someone because you want to be with THAT PERSON. If he doesn't want to be with his current girlfriend, then he should break up with her so she can date someone that actually deserves her. If he DOES want to be with his current girlfriend, then you are being very slimy by trying to weasel into his life and break that happiness up.
Never, ever try to break up a relationship. That's the kind of karma that bites you back 100 fold.
-- from Lisa
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