Then out of the blue she starts going out with my best friend.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old MaleI went out with a girl for a few months about a year ago. She broke up with me and I was crushed. I didn't speak to her for about 6 months. Then out of the blue she starts going out with my best friend. Jealousy consumed me. Since he is my best friend he shares stories about things they do together ,like most guys do. I find myself thinking of them doing these things at night and the already-constant jealously becomes uncontrollable. I'm worried that it'll only be a matter of time before a confrontation happens. I don't want to lose my best friend but I dont know if I'll ever come to accept with them being together. Please help, thank you
RomanceClass.com AdviceYou have to learn to let go of your relationship that you had and that's now over. That is incredibly hard, as you know, but it's something you must do if you're going to get over the jealousy that you're feeling. It's a good thing that you recognize that you have a problem now, before things get out of hand.
When you think of her or him and her, remind yourself that it's over. Just like when you're done with high school, it's over and you don't go back to it. You remember it fondly and you think of all the fun you had, but you don't go and sit in the classrooms again and you're not jealous of the new students that they get to be with your old teachers. You have to treat your old relationship in the same way, that it's done. And you need to remind yourself that she's not there for you anymore.
You need to move on and find someone new to keep your mind off of her. Get involved in activities that keep you from thinking of her. Volunteer your time and gain some fun out of that.
If you must, break off from your friend while they're dating. Tell him that it's too much for you right now and you'll catch up with him when he's done with her. But save that to if you really really can't handle thinking of him with her.
I wish you the best,
Jenn
-- from Jenn
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